Adult life can be really f*cking hard sometimes. Between family, jobs, bills, and sleep, it can be hard to take a breath and reorganize yourself. Recently, I’ve found that I’m having a difficult time keeping up with my schedule and keeping my responsibilities in check due to the stress from school, work, apartment hunting and my upcoming graduation.
For me, most of these are typical stresses and pressures that I have been managing for a while now; however, I’ve recently become aware that these have built up to a point that I am falling behind on responsibilities that I typically never miss. Self awareness, or knowing your normal state, is an immensely valuable tool that can helps you identify when you stray from normal standards of behavior.
Yesterday, I slept in later than usual then became unbearably irritable at work and then spent the rest of the evening being a couch potato. Then, to finish the day off, I remembered that I completely missed a practice that morning. I will say, I love to sleep; however, I’ve noticed that getting out of bed has been taking more time than usual. I have been easily irritated at work and spending my time afterwards ignoring other school responsibilities. I noticed that these behaviors aren’t usual for me so I discussed them with my therapist and we worked through what was going on.
Sometimes we become aware of these unusual behaviors ourselves and sometimes we do something about it. Other times, we might notice the behaviors but brush them off because we are dealing with so much at once. And if we don’t notice them, friends and family will and hopefully they will speak up and try to help. It’s important to put value in your mental health and, when you see it begin to falter, you take the time to care for it.
With touring, there is constantly moving schedule and it can be hard to find time to care for your mental health, and even harder to speak with a mental health professional. It’s important for the industry to make resources available on tour so that an artist or crew can properly react to a change in their mental health. And, even before then, give the artist and crew the education to identify when they or someone else is falling behind. Creating prevention is far easier that post-vention and is absolutely valuable to anyone in any industry.